Apr 28

On Sunday 27th April I preached on one of the most human passages in the Bible. Matthew 26 when Jesus’ disciples fell asleep praying - 3 Times!

I encouraged us all to work at the spiritual discipline of prayer even if it meant we begin by taking ten minutes more regularly to pray.

I guarantee if we did this we would see a great difference in our lives - especially in our relationships with God who loves us to spend time with Him - our heavenly Father.

I closed with the following story of answer prayer. Someone emailed me to ask for it. So I thought I would blog it as well.

Please feed back on your own prayer thoughts!

Andrew Gardner

This beautiful story was written by a doctor who worked in South Africa ..

One night I had worked hard to help a mother in the labour ward; but in spite of all we could do, she died, leaving us with a tiny, premature baby and a crying two-year-old daughter.  We would have difficulty keeping the baby alive, as we had no incubator (we had no electricity to run an incubator).

We also had no special feeding facilities.

Although we lived on the equator, nights were often chilly with treacherous drafts.  One student midwife went for the box we had for such babies and the cotton wool that the baby would be wrapped in.
Another went to stoke up the fire and fill a hot water bottle.  She came back shortly in distress to tell me that in filling the bottle, it had burst (rubber perishes easily in tropical climates). ‘And it is our last hot water bottle!’ she exclaimed. As in the West, it is no good crying over spilled milk, so in Central Africa it might be considered no good crying over burst water bottles.  They do not grow on trees, and there are no drugstores down forest pathways.

‘All right,’ I said, ‘put the baby as near the fire as you safely can, and sleep between the baby and the door to keep it free from drafts  Your job is to keep the baby warm.’

The following noon , as I did most days, I went to have prayers with any of the orphanage children who chose to gather with me.  I gave the youngsters various suggestions of things to pray about and told them about the tiny baby.  I explained our problem about keeping the baby warm enough, mentioning the hot water bottle, and that the baby could so easily die if it got chills.  I also told them of the two-year-old sister, crying because her mother had died.

During prayer time, one ten-year-old girl, Ruth, prayed with the usual blunt conciseness of our African children.  ‘Please, God’ she prayed, ‘Send us a hot water bottle today.  It’ll be no good tomorrow, God, as the baby will be dead, so please send it this afternoon.’

While I gasped inwardly at the audacity of the prayer, she added, ‘And while You are about it, would You please send a dolly for the little girl
so she’ll know You really love her?’

As often with children’s prayers, I was put on the spot. Could I honestly say ‘Amen’?  I just did not believe that God could do this.  Oh, yes, I know that He can do everything; the Bible says so.  But there are limits, aren’t there?  The only way God could answer this particular prayer would be by sending me a parcel from the homeland.  I had been in Africa for almost four years at that time, and I had never, ever, received a parcel from home.

Anyway, if anyone did send me a parcel, who would put in a hot water bottle?

I lived on the equator!

Halfway through the afternoon, while I was teaching in the nurses’ training school, a message was sent that there was a car at my front door.  By the time I reached home, the car had gone, but there on the verandah was a large 22-pound parcel.  I felt tears pricking my eyes.  I could not open the parcel alone, so I sent for the orphanage children.

Together we pulled off the string, carefully undoing each knot.  We folded the paper, taking care not to tear it unduly.  Excitement was mounting.  Some thirty or forty pairs of eyes were focused on the large cardboard box.

From the top, I lifted out brightly-coloured, knitted jerseys.  Eyes sparkled as I gave them out.  Then there were the knitted bandages for the leprosy patients, and the children looked a little bored.  Then came a box of mixed raisins and sultanas - that would make a batch of buns for the weekend.

Then, as I put my hand in again, I felt the…..could it really be?  I grasped it and pulled it out.  Yes, a brand new, rubber hot water bottle.

I cried.

I had not asked God to send it; I had not truly believed that He could.

Ruth was in the front row of the children.  She rushed forward, crying out, ‘If God has sent the bottle, He must have sent the dolly, too!’ Rummaging down to the bottom of the box, she pulled out the small, beautifully-dressed dolly.  Her eyes shone!  She had never doubted! Looking up at me, she asked: ‘Can I go over with you and give this dolly to that little girl, so she’ll know that Jesus really loves her?’  Of course, I replied!

That parcel had been on the way for five whole months, packed up by my former Sunday school class, whose leader had heard and obeyed God’s prompting to send a hot water bottle, even to the equator.  And one of the girls had put in a dolly for an African child - five months before, in answer to the believing prayer of a ten-year-old to bring it ‘that afternoon.’

‘Before they call, I will answer.’  (Isaiah 65:24)

Prayer is one of the best free gifts we receive.  There is no cost, but a
lot of rewards.  Let’s continue praying for one another.

Apr 4

Chris1This week saw the six-month anniversary of Linda’s death come and go. Now I’m not someone who normally gets particularly bothered by dates, times etc; things like that don’t tend to get to me (they’re just “another day”). But this time it had a bit more resonance for me as I was asked to take a funeral on Tuesday, 6-months after I’d spent my last night with Linda holding her hand all night as her body packed up.   

The funeral was of the sister of a good friend of mine here at FFMC who together with his wife have been very supportive to me personally. Christine had contracted measles aged 18-months at the same time as Ian; Ian recovered but Christine didn’t and as a result, spent her life effectively as an 18-month old child in an adult’s body, passing away aged 55 on Good Friday.

I know that when you have cared for someone through some of the harder knocks life throws at you, when they pass on from this life for those of us left behind there is a whole range of emotions. On the one hand there is a deep sadness, emptiness. Something triggers a memory and you find yourself crying for seemingly no reason. They are no longer sitting in their chair like they have always done. You walk into their room to speak to them before you remember they’re not there and perhaps walk out again feeling a bit cross with your self. Or perhaps there is a sense of relief, a sense of being set free both for them and for you, or a sense of business-like “that’s life”. And then you feel guilty for thinking such things.

All these things are natural, normal responses to losing someone special, and it’s important that we allow ourselves that time to grieve. To give ourselves permission to do so is an important, healthy decision to make, not to bottle it up but to allow ourselves to express how we feel honestly, openly and healthily.

Crucifixion 2 Times like this also cause us to ask what some people call “the first order” questions of life – or to put it another way, we ask questions of life and death. Perhaps we each stop and ask what life is all about, or what happens when we die. How can we be sure of what happens after we die – does anything happen when we die? Or maybe when we look at Christine we ask questions of life - why – why did God allow Ian & Christine to both contract measles but only Ian to recover and Christine to have her whole life changed in that one moment. Why does God allow lives to be so tragically cut short, potential lost?

As someone who recently had to face these very questions myself, I know that sometimes there are simply no answers that can be given. To listen to a minister or any well meaning person try to trot out trite answers to questions of suffering can sometimes be offensive or hurtful. I have found that chasing answers to these questions can actually sap our energy, and sometimes prove to be a fruitless search.

But what I have found is that as a Christian, God is never far away from us at times like this, and rather than trying to make sense of the pain I have found it more helpful to draw strength from simply choosing to trust God. And so I prefer to focus upon those things we can know, the answers we can find and be sure about.

Who has the right to measure the value of anyone’s life? Who has the right to say that one person’s life is more valuable than anyone else’s? And how do we measure life anyway? I would suggest that the value of someone’s life can be measured by the effect that they have on other people. Seeing Christine at home with Ian and the family, and watching them struggling led their neighbour to begin the Charnwood Trust which has a significant impact working to build bridges between handicapped and non-handicapped children. Without Christine, would others have ever benefited from this care?

I believe it is therefore fair to say that the best of human virtues are wrought through the most difficult of circumstances. And in seeking to share God’s love with people hurt, damaged, disadvantaged in life we are actually walking in a way close to God’s heart.

I think I surprised myself with how I got through the service! My “weepy” moment came at the end when I was on my own at the door looking back at the coffin while everyone else was listening to a reflective CD by Michael W Smith. But I don’t think anyone noticed….

Family news: scary, but my kids are growing up too fast! Olivia dressed up for her school disco last night in a pretty dress, high heels, had her hair done, make up and perfume. She looked really pretty - but she’s not 9 until the end of May! Help!Oh, and I’m being ordained on the evening of Friday 9th May at Renewal Christian Centre!God is good!